My husband and I were both 20 when we married. That's way too young imo. We had no clue what we were doing. I didn't go to college right after high school b/c of some trouble during my senior year (long story). Anyway, I was 39 when I finally started my formal education. I'm 47 now *sigh* I got a BS in sociology, and have done a few grad classes in public polocy. Best thing I ever did for myself, even though it hasn't translated to increased earning power. Oh well.

My husband came up with a million reasons why I shouldn't go back to school, but it all came down to his own insecurity. He was (is) afraid of my independence. He did things to make it hard for me to study and attend classes. He also started accusing me of having an affair immediately. I nearly did, but only b/c of his constant accusations.

I really would like to be on my own and support myself. I feel like I've lost a big chunk of my identity, and that I missed out on a lot of things I should have done in my 20s. I want to have all those experiences now, even if it means being selfish.

I think it would be good for you to go to Norway if there is any way you can arrange it. And to keep applying to grad schools. Keep your options open and dont be afraid to exercise them. I still have huge self esteem issues, but I'm working on it. I'm really kind of a scaredy cat about making changes and standing up for myself, but it is so rewarding when I do!