When I first started realizing her problems were more than just issues with her husband I suggested that she see a counselor. Her parents are currently making her see one, which was another encouraging step forward. Apparently she doesn't think he can help, but it's a step in the right direction.

About the latching thing... I think people latch onto her and for whatever reasons and she can't break them off or even stand up to them. She actually claims to be "independent" but I don't see how that can be when you are subject to other peoples will's. Always trying to keep everyone happy. I mean it's something I can relate to, I usually try to play nice and avoid conflict over silly things, yet when it's something like someone infringing on my person rights or infringing on someone else's rights, that's something you can't let go.

I just don't fully understand the thinking, like she seems to be aware(and at times admits) that the actions of people such as her husband and close friend are "wrong", yet she just seems to brush them away.

But I guess I write this because I do not fully understand how she thinks and maybe from being rather discouraged that her "close friend's" control is undoing some of the positive steps she is taking. Also that she seems to defend his and take his side.

Example being... like I said once again he is watching what people tell her over messengers, without people knowing this. Yet her solution is simply not to use messengers to talk to people anymore, not to say change her password or tell him "no". I tried to explain how him doing this was a gross violation of not only herself but also the people she talks to, and how he was being very disrespectful. Basically she completely dodged the whole issue, apologized because it was her fault and keeps trying to avoid it.

But yeah, I just found that discouraging. >.< And it made me question if I was doing the right thing or in the right way... but I guess you have to be patient.