walkingbear, a lot of issues depend on where your friend is in her sobriety. I suggest you talk with her and ask her. I've been sober for 5 1/2 years and it no longer bothers me if a date has a drink. Although it would bother me if they had several because then we would not be on the same wavelength. I no longer like to be around people who are drunk. But instead of it being a temptation, it is a reminder of why I don't like to drink. Drunk people are just no fun anymore. I wish you well in your relationship. It sounds like you are a very caring person.