I went thru a divorce with 3 kids almost 13 years ago. I was a full-time mom and the toughest thing for me was that I lost custody of my kids. My ex didn't want me to work while we were married and he controlled all of the money. Even though I only asked for joint custody the ex wouldn't agree to it. He got full custody and I could no longer fight because I didn't have the financial resources. He also got the house.

Fast-forward 5 years from that time. I married the most wonderful man and got a good job.

Today - my kids came out just fine. And the best part? They have told me so many times that they can't even picture that I was ever married to their dad! They each have an "ok" relationships with him - but when the going gets tough, they come to me and their step-dad for advice and encouragement.

So, no matter what happens - as long as your kids know you love them and you are willing to make compromises that don't disrupt their lives too much - all will turn out fine.

I could write more - but would rather you ask more specific questions if you are seeking advice. No marriage and no divorce is the same.