I hope you feel better. It sounds like you're doing the best you can, though, and I hope you realize that. Putting myself in your husband's shoes I can see where he's coming from. He wants to protect his son, but all he can do is talk to those boys and if they don't want to listen there's nothing he can do to force them. He can't get physical with them. It seems to him that he's helpless to protect his son, and that's a direct hit on a guy's manhood. I know it's hard to understand, but talking about that helplessnes and emasculation with anyone would be tough, and to a woman it would be even harder. (To a wife maybe even harder still.)