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Originally Posted by skysblue
I know the hesitation. My T comments on the 'adult' Skysblue. And I'll respond, "See, that's why I shouldn't regress in therapy." And she tries to explain to me that I must get in touch with the child parts. My T has never said I was 'too much' for her but we've been discussing how my reactions to her reflect MY fear that I'm too much for her. She keeps encouraging me to get to know my child parts. But the instinct is to keep them hidden also.
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Yes, your t says the same things that my t says. Maybe she is telling me to meet my own child needs? I do try to do this. But it doesn't always feel possible or like what is needed. I have noticed that when i pay attention to what the child part of me is feeling and wanting, i (the adult me) feels very overwhelmed and I have a hard time tolerating the strong feelings that come up and the way the neediness feels like a deep, longing pain. I also find that my efforts to soothe child parts when they are in pain only works to a small degree. It doesn't take the pain away. I'm always aware at the time that the child parts of me want that soothing from my t and not from me.