Since you have decided to let him have another chance AFTER the abuse, keep him to it. He has to acknowledge your rights as a human being.

So far he has been treating you like an object, and getting annoyed when you interfere in HIS any-time, any-where enjoyment.
It is a form of exercising posessiveness. He took "she's mine" way to literally. You did not sell yourself into slavery when you married him.

I am getting a sense that your husband is clumsy, immature, and uneducated in area of inter-personal behaviors. Like he has no CLUE that there are some things that you just DON'T do, or perhaps he doesn't have any empathy ability, and while he knows you are human, it doesn't really tell him anything.

Considering his reaction when you tried to explain to him how you feel, he is treating the "fresh start" more like a chance for YOU to get your act together and stop making him abuse you. Tell him clearly that for this to work he has to change how he interacts with you. He has to hear you.

Let's for a second assume the very best, that in his mind he is innocent, just trying to pay his wife a compliment, 'cause she's so sexy. Fine. Like Minah Byrd wrote, tell him what would be acceptable ways. Men I knew would make a sound like "yumm", or a small joke to let me know their mood. If he is willing to hear you and to honor you, and stop this unsolicited pawing, that's a good sign. That you can take to a marriage counseling, but if not, then there is no hope, sorry to say.