I'm still in the process of finding out what new T's boundaries are. I have been seeing her for 5 months now. I know she doesn't allow emails. I tried sending her one and asking if it was okay, and she very gently told me she doesn't do therapy through email, but that i am welcome to leave her a message whenever I want. I have done it a couple of times, and she was kind enough and sweet enough to return a call, even when it wasn't necessary

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She told me several times that I can ask her questions, whatever I want, and that she doesn't promise to answer them, but she might. I haven't tried it yet.
She doesn't hug me, because she doesn't want to over-stimulate my longings for her, but that might change in the future. She does allow me to hold her hand for a second or two before I leave, if I have the need to do that.
Former T had somewhat stricter boundaries on one hand, and loser on the other hand. She allowed me to email her occasionally, but not on a regular basis. She didn't encourage phone messages, and returned calls only if she had to.
I hugged her a couple of times, but she was uncomfortable with it and asked me to stop

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When I asked her questions occasionally, such as where she was going on vacation, she would answer. But I never asked her anything other than that, I believe. She didn't give me the impression that she was open to answering my questions.
I feel all in all, former T's boundaries were stricter. I feel new T is much more open and flexible. I

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