|
Aug 16, 2011, 03:35 AM
|
 |
|
|
Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
|
|
Hi ~ I'm a recovering alcoholic, so I know about some of these things. LOL
First, there's NOTHING you can do about someone who wants to drink. No one can make them stop -- THEY have to want to stop drinking more than anything else. No amount of nagging, griping, bribing, talking, etc., is going to make any difference. It's like talking to a brick wall. When he has hit his "bottom" he'll quit -- IF he ever hits bottom. Some people never get there, and die first. I hope he's not one of them.
Secondly, don't pick him up anymore. You can't enable this guy. The more you do, the more he'll use you. Don't take his calls when you suspect he's been drinking. Don't even text him --- you can't make sense to a drunk anyway. It might be helpful if you went to a few Al-Anon meetings, to learn how to deal with a drunk. These meetings are VERY helpful -- you won't regret it.
I'd think twice about taking that trip with him -- and I hope he's not driving!!!  Chances are your trip will be one long drink-a-thon. I doubt you'll enjoy yourself much.  And don't believe him when he says he'll pay you back for Carolina -- he said that when he was drinking -- and chances are he won't "waste" the money paying you back when he could use it for booze. That's the way alcoholic's think.
You don't have to accept his apology either -- he keeps doing the same things expecting different results. I think I'd back off on this "friendship" until this guy decides to stop drinking. It will hurt less.
God bless & take care!! Hugs, Lee
|