My former T had very strict boundaries. She never went a minute over 50 minutes. She didn't allow hugs except at my last session. She would never have allowed me to hold her hand. She was open about her life, though. We used to see each other around the community and she would talk to me if I talked to her first. She was descreet about it, though. Therapy was in her house and I knew her H and who her kids were. She had photos of her family in her waiting room.

My current T has much looser boundaries. She lets me hold her hand and hug her, but I don't do those things each session. She lets me email but will only respond to one per week. She used to respond to them all in detail, but she changed that. She lets me call but she prefers email so Ive only called her about 3 times in over a year. She doesn't have any photos of her family in her office but she is an artist and photographer so she has her work on the walls. She also has the collage I made for her up on her wall. She will answer questions when I ask her except I get the idea she doesn't want to talk about her H. She will talk a little about her kids. She doesn't mind taking a walk with me outside of the office during a session. She won't say I love you to me but she has said how much she likes me.

I pay for 90 minutes but she will go over that if she doesn't have anyone after me, but only if I'm in the middle of something and can't wrap it up right then.

oops, I always write too much about my T.