(((((((((iamanne))))))))))

exactly. when the memory pieces are replaying its like being stuck in that moment.

in memories there is no time concept of past and future. there is just the present - memories are what "is" happening at that moment when that memory was stored in the brain. Nothing more and nothing less because there is no past and future in a memory - the memory is what it is at the time it is stored separated in pieces or as a whole memory.

I didn't understand that concept either until I read about it in Nancy J Napiers book called Recreating Yourself. Then what I was gonig through made so much sense. it is stored as is in the moment of it happening. No matter how much time goes by and no matter what I do that memory I keep experiencing is going to remain the same as it was when the situation really happened.

Once I made that connection and started retraining myself to instead of trying to focus on the impossible -changing a memory of an event that is done and over with and focus on what I needed to do when that memory replayed - locate the trigger and take care of that trigger reaction things started falling into place for me.

Yes it is tough working with and on triggers but like you said you survived the actual situations you can and will survive the taking care of the healing part.

To use a part of a friends email statement to me -

"They don't call us survivors for nothing"