i like this point, sunny. i wanted to bring it up too: that i have boundaries regarding my interactions with T, that it's not all about them and what they want either.

pdoc has wanted to do a house visit once or twice, but this is something i am not ok with and have told him so. austin-t has gave me his private contact details (home address, phone number etc) on a letter once, but i asked if he wouldn't mind changing it to a blank letterhead or his practice address. he told me he knew what he was doing and didn't mind, but the problem was that i minded and i let him know, and he changed it for me.

i don't like calling after business hours; i'd much prefer sending a txt and asking for a call back the next day. austin-t and i have discussed this - it's easier for him to talk to me when he gets home, and pdoc prefers to call me on his drive home. i don't really like it much, but it's a process of give and take (lot more taking on my part!).