Yes Open Eyes - I liked your post too. You and I had a little problem and we both solved it in PM's. I would rather talk things out too. As I said before I was on a members ignore list and I also used it for a day - but I'm happy to say we're now friends. I thought when I tried to send her a PM, a message did come up - but MAYBE she adjusted her setting to only get PM's from contacts(meaning friends) and that's why a message came up. So I think I solved my own mystery - that a message only comes up if someone adjusts setting to receive PM's only from friends on the list.

LOL I've been trying to do my own experiment with a couple friends. If someone is on the ignore list, I think there should be some kind of simple message saying your PM can't be sent - not a message saying you're on the banished ignore list lol.....otherwise they will keeping sending messages not knowing if they're being received.