What is the word, T's should be sitting there in - not suspended animation, but something like that, where they are a blank slate in terms of no preconceived notions of where you are going, open to all subtlety and nuance of what you are saying, and how it is making THEM feel, so they are better able to sort through all the projections and identifications and repressions and transferences and countertransferences flying through the air. It's not a social visit. If either of us brings up that the Yankees are in first place, what's the subtext? Actually, I haven't wanted to talk baseball with him all summer... uh-oh... but what IS your heart question about?