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Originally Posted by hankster
What is the word, T's should be sitting there in - not suspended animation, but something like that, where they are a blank slate in terms of no preconceived notions of where you are going, open to all subtlety and nuance of what you are saying, and how it is making THEM feel, so they are better able to sort through all the projections and identifications and repressions and transferences and countertransferences flying through the air. It's not a social visit. If either of us brings up that the Yankees are in first place, what's the subtext? Actually, I haven't wanted to talk baseball with him all summer... uh-oh... but what IS your heart question about?
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Well, I do tell T stuff that isn't directly related to therapy issues. I want her to know me more than the junk I bring into session. So, yes, I told her about watching the World Series (my first - I had to ask people what 'bunt' means, etc.) and that I study Hindi, Dutch and Sign Language and that I love to kayak and that I go to the beach regularly and I show her the most cute photos ever of my grandsons and that I finally learned to swim and so on. None of those are actions that are dysfunctional or ripe with emotional subtexts except that they make me happy. I guess I'd like her to remember some of it and ask how my studies are going or something like that. You know - that I'm a whole person outside of my quirky issues. I understand it's not a social visit and I definitely do not want to spend an enormous amount of time on my RL but still...