MUE - I am going through something similar. As I begin to know myself better and am creating new boundaries, my friend is also reacting poorly. She's saying things like, "I've put up with your self-inquiry. You're so self-absorbed. I don't know if I'm liking the new Skysblue." But, with my T's help, I am able to feel more and more confident of setting those boundaries and if my friend cannot accommodate them, then she's not a friend for me. But, there would still be grief at the loss and I'm sure you're feeling that too at the moment.