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Old Aug 16, 2011, 03:15 PM
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MUE - I am going through something similar. As I begin to know myself better and am creating new boundaries, my friend is also reacting poorly. She's saying things like, "I've put up with your self-inquiry. You're so self-absorbed. I don't know if I'm liking the new Skysblue." But, with my T's help, I am able to feel more and more confident of setting those boundaries and if my friend cannot accommodate them, then she's not a friend for me. But, there would still be grief at the loss and I'm sure you're feeling that too at the moment.
Oh yes, I am feeling that grief. I am holding onto the hope that things will improve with my friend, that she joins me in the opportunity to have a healthy friendship. It's unlikely though. My T says she is so damaged...and knowing that makes it so sad for me.
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