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Originally Posted by Leed
Hi ~ I worked at a place like that, with people like that --- I never fit in, and we had nothing in common. I stayed at that company for about 15 years!!!
The very FEW times I went to lunch with anyone, it was the most uncomfortable thing I'd ever done. Conversation was forced, and usually we just ate in peace. Finally, I just spent lunch hours in my car, listening to music. LOL I was much more comfortable, and it helped to clear my head since I worked in a fast-paced, technical type job. I just did my job, and when quitting time came, I tried to leave the stress THERE -- and go home. 
Yes it got lonely at times, but when I listened to the others talking at work, I was amazed at how shallow and self-serving they were. I was glad I didn't fit in -- I'd hate to be thought of like that.  I'm just a "normal" (???) down-to-earth gal who would feel uncomfortable at the opera anyway! LOL God bless & take care. Hugs, Lee 
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OMG! This describes EXACTLY what I'm going thru! Thank you for sharing your experience, it really makes me feel a little better that I'm not alone in the situation I am in.
I know the exact uncomfortable feeling about the forced lunch conversation. I too am down to earth but most of these people are not, it's just that they have a need to show others how much a big deal they are, shallow and self serving describe them perfectly! They are just SO FULL of themselves.
I think my co-workers are just unhappy people. I don't mind others having different interests like arts, I know a lot of people into arts that are very nice people, just these people are so 'nose up in the sky' mainly because their job is all they've got going in their lives. Almost all of them don't have a significant other or any type of life outside of work, so I guess they have to pride themselves on their positions and work lives.
An example that just occurred today - our company is by a big park that we can see thru our windows. Unfortunately, a lot of homeless people inhabit the park. So one of these people tells the other 'look at these bums, they should just get a job', and the other one laughs how pathetic these people in the park are. It got my blood boiling, and I nicely said well you have to understand a lot of these people have mental illness or handicap or addiction that won't allow them to function and 'get a job' like other people. Sure there are some who probably just don't want to work and for them it comes down to individual choice, but the majority of the people are in need of help. They stared back at me without saying nothing, like I was speaking a different language. Not one ounce of compassion at all!
Thank you all for the advice, I greatly appreciate it!