"anniversaries to commemorate such horrid events" hmm?

As a survivor of years of s****l abuse as a child, I know that pain you are speaking of. I have no anniversaries because everyday would be an anniversary . . . . . . But something Evangelista wrote made me think . . . . . . . what if you took your "anniversary" and turned it from a day of sadness and grief and turned it over and made it a day of joy because you "SURVIVED" and continue to survive . . . . that person took something away from you but you defeated him because you survive and do what you can to help yourself . . . . . you continue to live and grow personally despite the anguish of that day . . . . you beat him!

Just a thought. I'm not diminishing what happened to you AT ALL! I wouldn't want anyone to endure what we have had to endure . . . . like everyone else, I'm trying to take back my life and this new insight helps to keep things moving in a positive direction. Just wanted to share it with you as a thought.
Safe hugs,
Anne