((((((((((((Evangelista)))))))))))))))))

Holding your dog is a great way to comfort the littles that hurt inside. This is tough stuff, especially when we're triggered. We're here with you. I don't feel smart enough to give you advice (myself made a great post on a thread that I recently posted "What to do when . . .") Myself''s explainations were very helpful and might also help you.
Also try looking at the grounding techniques at the top of this forum. That also seems to help.

Safe hugs, warm thoughts,
Anne