We are sorry this has caused a rift in your relationship. A lot of people have no idea how to respond to this kind of information. It does not mean they don't care, just that they are ill prepared in how to respond. We think it's possible that your husband has distanced himself because the information was so very upsetting to him.
We're sorry to hear he quit counseling, but we would encourage you to continue going yourself, if you're finding it helpful for you. We encourage you to keep trying to talk to your husband about it, and find out how he's feeling. It could be a lot of work to get your relationship back on track, but work is always worth it for people you love. Take good care of yourself, and thank you for sharing this!