Thank you for this. Sometimes, it seems, the obvious needs to be pointed out to me before I can see it....I didn't even see that remark as counter-productive! Compassion is a huge issue for me.....and I will say i'm working on it because I still cannot seperate myself from others. But at least I can now say that, which (as you know) I wouldn't before (although I will not permit myself to say more than that!...and it scares myself to even be saying this still. if that makes sense!!) Sannah.