i sympathise. My husband has consistently refused to see a counsellor himself becasue he has no issues, I am the ohe with the problems. Uh huh! I wish he had, but we have muddled through. Intimacy was very awkward, difficult, painful, stressful for years once I was working on my **** and he still refused to go and talk to someone. He could really have benefited but maybe he felt threatened somehow, even tho I told him to see someone other than my therapist. I have never understood his reluctance. Things only got better between us to the extent that I was able to tell him what I need, what I cannot do ... and also ... very big deal...learn to tell him no regarding intimacy, and learn to stand up to him when he got angry. That took years!!! And I mean years. But we do love each other and we made it thro some very tough times. It was hard to not have his support re. therapy though, so good luck.