So if your son had an illness he'd be bad? Did you really imagine you were perfect before this?Do you inflict this kind of pressure on your son?
OCD is a biological disorder. Its highly likely one of your parents or relatives have it too. And if THEY would have talked about it maybe you wouldnt be so clueless. Having OCD does not mean you are defective or bad or weak or a criminal. It means you are human.
Why couldnt you speak to a professional? I would consider that carefully- a psychologist. And consider youre reasons for not being able to open up or admit youre not perfect.
Youre putting way too much pressure on yourself. And youre putting yourself above everyone else because...uh WHY? Because youre "financially sound"?
And by the way- I have OCD, Im a CPA, have a Masters Degree, and no criminal record.