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It sounds like you are coming along slow and steady. That is nothing to be sneezed at. Your boyfriend sounds like a really good guy. It was nice to hear from your sister. It sounds like she meant what she said. I would go easy with telling her the worst stuff. A way to open the dialogue might be to say that you are glad that therapy helped her and you would be interested to hear how she was able to use therapy successfully. You could say you are in therapy and would appreciate input from her on how to get the most out of it.
That gives her control to go, or not go, into sensitive topics. It allows her to set the pace. I think it's a good way to rebuild a connection to her, by minimizing the risk that she will get scared of you becoming too dependent on her. That happened to me with a sister who now kind of minimizes her contact with me. I became devastated with hurt when she started doing that. Slowly, I am rebuilding the connection. You do not have to make some formal arrangement to have your sister involved in your therapy. My guess is that could jeopardize your relationship with her. Just try to reconnect in a way that does not threaten to make her feel overly relied on.
You really seem to be going in a good direction. Going slowly is fine.
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