i am so glad you shared your concerns with us. i cannot sugar coat your situation because it happened to me. if an abuser (and your hubby is one) hits you more than once in a relationship he will continue to do so. studies have been done to prove this as a fact. the cycle of beatings will get closer and closer. keep a log and you can see the pattern i reference.
the next time he hurts you go to the ER or your doctor to document his abuse. tell them who harmed you. take pics of your bruises, etc. keep them. call the police-911-as soon as you can call after u've been hurt. they will come out and take a report-another documentation. you will prob be asked if you wish a hearing before a judge. your hubby will be required to be there too. a protection order can be awarded to you that your husband is not allowed to harm you. if he does after the protection order, call 911 immediately. he will be arrested. do this over and over if necessary if you keep trying to believe he will change as i did.
BUT he won't.
NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO HIT OR HARM ANOTHER PERSON.
you can consider my advice. it's from very painful experience. i suffered for 13 yrs. my life was in peril. i was told that but i really didn't believe it until i was choked so hard i blacked out. as i was going under i remembered the wise words given to me. i came so close to dying.
emotional abuse will cause you to become a hostage in your own home.
you may feel your hubby is a good father.
he is NOT. if he was, he wouldn't be hurting his child's mother. he wouldn't hurt the person he says he loves. your son will soon witness the abuse and remember. he will no longer feel SAFE. he will be scarred for life and often times children of abusers in adulthood become abusers too.
my advice to you is to heed my words. there will be no improved changes. abusers and pedophiles who do get help rarely change. there is a 0% success rate. you may die at the hands of your husband. believe it. many women are killed this way every year.
here's a site to help you better understand about your husband. i hope you will read it. it's a long article but it may save your life and possibly even your son's.
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/dome...es_effects.htm
SOME FACTS AND STATISTICS:
1. Studies by the Surgeon General's office reveal that domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women between the ages of 15 and 44,
more common than automobile accidents, muggings, and cancer deaths
combined. Other research has found that half of all women will experience some form of violence from their partners during marriage, and that more than one-third are battered repeatedly every year. Source: Journal of American Medical Association, 1990.
2. In 2003,
among all female murder victims in the U.S., 30% were slain by their husbands or boyfriends. Source: Uniform Crime Reports of the U.S. 1996, Federal Bureau of Investigation, 2003 (January - June).
3. A
child exposed to the father abusing the mother is at the strongest risk for transmitting violent behavior from one generation to the next. Source: "Report of the American Psychological Association Presidential Task Force on Violence and the Family", APA, 1996
AND also-
http://www.ncadv.org/files/DomesticV...(National).pdf
don't feel ashamed. he's the one who should feel shame. you have done absolutely nothing wrong. don't fall into the trap, "it must be my fault. i need to be better and then he won't hurt me." don't minimize his behavior. don't take the blame. it's not yours. it is his.
please stay safe.
