((((((((((((((((((((((Mel, Lex, L & D )))))))))))))))))))))

Thank you for your responses. I find it interesting that so many of us are "fixers". I personally beleive that this trait comes from past abuse, weather emotionally, physically or whatever. We try so hard to make everyone around us feel safe and comfortable, all the while ignoring are own needs.
Learning to set boundaries is difficult. Not only do we have to condition ourself to do it, others around us, who arnt used to us "taking a stand" want to resist the changes that we are making. Staying strong is key. Although, it is difficult. I think all of us are strong enough to handle it.

Good luck to you guys in setting your boundaries. Thanks for your replies.

Huggles and love,


Jen