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Originally Posted by Sunna
It sounds like she is very involved with those two.
I know sometimes friendships fade when a person gets married, and his/her husband becomes the whole world. But she didn't marry them.
Or maybe she did. Well, not officially. Too bad she won't tell you. It would have been nice to include you in her new thing.
All I could advise you, be patient. Perhaps it's just a brief fascination that will pass, and she will give you the equal time, that your long time friendship deserves.
It's not nice, at all, though. Some people don't have a good friendship-needs-maintenance awareness. I know I was like that. Just following my new interests with no thought to feelings of neglected friends and then wonder, years laters, where have they all gone?
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Yes, she is very involved in them and she has mentioned it to me. Not in those words, but she has said that she and the wife have definitely gotten closer since the wedding took place a year ago and that they have the husband in common.
I think maybe the wife knows how her husband feels about my friend and their friendship is her way of keeping an eye on them. I don't know, but if I was her, I'd definitely be doing that.
About a year or so ago, my friend 'broke up' with a friend that she had for about 10 years. They met when both their children were small and grew up together. She ended the friendship because she said she didn't think they had anything in common anymore. I found this to be very unfair because I knew her friend had not done anything to hurt her and had always been there for her. Maybe she's now doing that to me. I guess there's not much I can do about it.