(((differentmiss))) - you've already received excellent advice. Marriage for a lifetime is for couples who have respect, love, trust and compassion, therefore you don't have to keep your marriage vows. You're in danger and its not going to get better....only worse. I'm trapped in my marriage ATM - although I don't get physically abused I do suffer mental and emotional abuse. Unfortunately I can't get out ATM but I'm working on mustering the courage. If I was in physical danger I would go to a shelter.

You need to go to a womens shelter because they can protect you. They'll also help you legally and eventually find you a place to live. Don't ever leave while he's at home or say you're leaving, because this could spark a violent outburst. Leave when he leaves in the morning - pack up basic clothes, ID, banking info etc and go to a shelter...never go back. He doesn't beat you because you're not perfect - he's the one who's flawed and no matter how hard you try, it will happen again and again. Don't listen to promises or make deals with yourself. I know its scary leaving but better to do it now before you get so deep you'll never leave.