I'm on my phone so this will probably be short. In order to get over being cheated on you have to accept that it had nothing to do with you. NOTHING. Not you, not your relationship, this was all his decision. His decision based on poor coping strategies. And I know it can be terrifying to make yourself vulnerable but have you told your current bf about your past? If he's the right guy for you, he should do what he can to make you feel safe. Whether that's calling to say goodnight or reassuring you that he's only interested in you and that he values your relationship's exclusivity