I've recently come out to my mother about having been abused, but only because I thought she already knew. I've only other times talked about it very briefly to my relationship partners, just off-hand mentioning I might have attachment issues because I was abused and then the conversation ends. Or if one of my (usually) male friends is being a jerk and NOT FUNNY I say "well you know I've been raped", just so they might be more sensitive to what they say after realizing it's not some far off thing, but they know someone. I think I've recovered pretty well, except being able to have a healthy relationship.

The question: The other day my mom asked if I had been physically or sexually abused or both. I just told her I didn't want to talk about it at the time. I don't want to talk about it ever though. To anyone except maybe a therapist. It's hard enough dealing with what I can't forget, but actually remembering the details of everything that happened is something that just seems like pain for no reason. And there is no way I want my mom to think of me having gone through all those things, and I don't know how it would benefit her to know anyways. Why does she want to know all the details? Isn't what I told her enough? No one else has ever pushed the subject.

So what would you advise? what have you done? How do you deal with the questions?