many years ago i was introduced to the concept of irrational thinking, introduced in a book called a new guide to rational living, by dr. albert ellis, phd. i thought i'd share the list of thinking we can all posess to some degree based on learning a belief system that can be flawed. there are suggested ways to improve those beliefs and become more rational in our everyday living. here is the list of flawed thinking one may have per dr. ellis. i'm a work in progress. have been working on them for 30 yrs. 
http://www.chrisflannery.com/2007/09...-albert-ellis/- The idea that you must have love or approval from all the significant people in your life (101).
- The idea that you absolutely must be thoroughly competent, adequate, and achieving or The idea that you must be competent or talented in some important area (115).
- The idea that other people absolutely must not act obnoxiously and unfairly, and, that when they do, you should blame and damn them, and see them as bad, wicked, or rotten individuals (127)...etc.
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