so what, .... men are supposed to read minds? argh!

I'm a woman and I know that women can cry for all sorts of reasons-- even when they're happy, or when something tender touches their soul..... how can a man, or any human for that matter, truly know how another person feels if one doesn't use decisive words?

hollywood and porn can also portray women as being repulsed or despise sex and yet still "want" it....
poor men-- some must be so confused at times

men are generally(I KNOW not all are-- but generally) taught all their childhood, to NOT show emotions-- I believe emotions can be strange to some of them.

If a woman wants to get an important point across-- she should consider where her partner is as far as emotions and understanding her, she can use words and speak straight to the point. Women (IMO) are generally(again-- NOT all- but generally) in tuned to emotions more, since they (usually most-- but NOT all) are given the luxury to grow up expressing them.

I hope you will really TALK to him-- let him know why you feel as you do-- explain, explain and explain-- if he understands and cares about you-- he will heed your wishes.

IMO-- it is rape if the spouse truly HEARS the word NO and yet continues.

I'm sorry you are having a hard time with things.

best to you

fins