I think of EMDR as a tool to use when a person feels "stuck". It helps shake things loose and let a person process memories that somehow became stuck. It can work on both big and small things. Sometimes it is not how big or major a trauma is but how important it is to us. Small things can be important. My T told me that sometimes he has clients make a list of 20 things they want to do EMDR on (20 stuck things, traumatic things, etc.). Then he asks them for the top few--most traumatic--and they start there with EMDR and work their way down. He didn't do this with me--we only did EMDR a few times. It tended to be on big things and then it seemed that was sufficient to help me move forward in life. We never returned to do EMDR on the smaller stuff, but I know he would if I requested it.

Hope EMDR can help you. Good luck.