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Originally Posted by Omers
Families with AS in them are different in many ways. Unfortunately IMO these quirks come part and parcel with the person you are with. He does need a life of his own and if he is AS he will need help with that. With his AS it is easier for others to triangulate which is what the sister seems to be doing. IMO the intensity of your reaction is going to make things more difficult. You can't change them you can only change you and your reaction/response.
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yes I do realize that, but I dont have to like it.. obviously I feel threatened..she has many times been inviting him to other functions recently w/o me as well..and I feel I am also part & parcel as Im in a relationship with him and we are raising 5 children together, three which are his and all with behavior issues. Its not her place either to interfere in our relationship when its more functional then any other relationship she has ever had... She is oblivious to her own symptoms and refuses to also acknowledge her * her kids obvious AS traits..so I feel no matter what its unapproachable. My spouse is very influenced by others, and I just simply dont see the need to fix him up with neighbors to hang with...I know his social issues, but she is also in denial of his issues, and thinks he will run there instead of shutting down.. however I know this wont work as when he shuts down he wants to be alone..she doesn't recognize his symptoms even though they are clear as rain, and its frustrating for me to be dealing with her.
I know its his decision, but I feel like she is creating a wedge between us, and I cant bring it up as no matter I will be the one coming of as controlling and no understanding will be offered for my feelings..as they seldom are.