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Originally Posted by mcl6136
Okay, so this is a bit strange. I've been in therapy almost a year now and have a positive relationship with my male t. But once in a while he does things that really seem manipulative. For example: his cell phone alarm (I'm thinking this isn't a ring tone) goes off repeatedly and he jumps up to shut it off. Other times, he unbuttons his shirt to the max and sits in a way that seems to display, well, his hairy chest. It really bugs me...I swear he's testing me. Do any people have advice on how to handle this?  |
I am curious about your comments about manipulating and testing. Do you mean that you think your T is doing those things to see how far he can go before you protest or object? Like he's trying to find the edge of your boundaries? If that is it, it seems underhanded. I think he should just ask about your boundaries if he has concerns. Would it be possible for you to ask him matter of factly why he does those things, without impuning a negative interpretation (that he is manipulating you)? Give him the benefit of the doubt when you ask him and see what he says.