Tsol,
I think a letter is an excellent idea. For a while, my bf (ex, I guess) and I were trying to discuss things over the phone. So much information would come out during those conversations and I'd get emotional and the tone of his voice would hurt and on and on and on and it was unproductive and usually just ruined my evening and the whole next day. He said once, towards the beginning of this, that he thought it was weak of us to have to use written communication (whether it was Facebook, IMing, letters, emails, even texts) instead of oral. I'll tell you what I told him:
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I don't think discussing issues via text, IM, letters, or Facebook is weak. It is just a different form of communication. Communication is vital, and if it works out better this way, so be it. My words come out so much more clearly, coherently, and responsibly when I'm writing rather than speaking and hearing you speak. Verbal communication is good (and hearing your voice is comforting) but fraught with intense emotion for me. It is usually hard to overcome that in order to maintain a productive, rational, comprehensible conversation.
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The emails we've been exchanging, and the texts, have been a godsend for me. I feel so much more... in control with them. When we're speaking, the conversation just seems to spiral out of control and zig zag all over the place and I usually end up sobbing and that gets him all flustered cause he doesn't know what to do so he starts back-tracking... it's a mess. So, I guess I'm just trying to say, if it's easier to write a letter, note, email, whatever to him, don't feel bad or like you should be "pushing" yourself to work on oral discussions. Open communication is open communication.
Good luck. Done with finals now, right? That should, at least, be a relief.