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Originally Posted by stardusted
Dealing with my emotional turmoil takes up most of my day. I find it difficult to break this habit. I'm easily pushed to the edge when I feel slighted by someone I care about and it makes it hard for me to distinguish between what is my own pathology and when someone is being inconsiderate.
People can be inconsiderate but it doesn't mean I need to jump out of my skin; however, I do. When I feel slighted anger boils up inside me and I feel full of "helpless rage." I've been classifying myself as Borderline but that really is only a title. And not a very flattering one. I'm much more than my pathology but that is something I usually forget.
We live in a whole world of others and hunger for their acceptance - most of us anyway. It's a matter of survival and we're programmed to function more effectively in a group. So in order to truly flourish we need to become an important member of the group - when we fail to do that our self-esteem plummets, continue to fail to do that and poof- you have a disorder. It's well documented that the happiest people on earth have a wonderful support network. People who they love and can count on to make their time on this earth as rich and fulfilling as it could be. Problem is I've failed to put that network together and now I search frantically trying to fill all the roles that I should have learned how to fill as a child.
So what am I to do?
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You dont give yourself enough credit sweetheart, Your a strong confident woman, but you need to reinforce that confidence. We all have insecurties and issues , you know me better than most and you know what im like, i could get into a fight in an empty room, or remember my fight in the hospital last year?? your not the only one that jumps out of their skin at times, my god just taking the underground is enough to push me over the edge sometimes. To help with it I try to think it all through properly, why am I angry? is it really a good reason to be angry?? waht will happen if I just explode right now???
You say "we" alot , but we are not talking about "we" we are talking about you. I wish I could teach you how to fight its worked wonders for me being able to tke my aggression in a gym or ring, so people frown on that kind of release but it works for me. I know you like to look at the more relaxing side of taking away the edge so what about more yoga or pilates? and in regards to a smoe social activity, what about studying a night class or something? your a very inteligent person (too inteligent sometimes :P) so how about applying it in a more practical manner?
