(((Sabrina)))) - I'm very sorry you're going through this stress. Would doctors in your area make house calls and why is she opposed to getting help? Do you know why she was groggy - is she on medication? I know what its like to be so stressed, you end up feeling shaky - this has happened a few times in my life. Maybe you can call first or have your son go in first, before you visit your mom. I don't know too much about your moms situation and I wish I had more suggestions. Make sure you take care of yourself during this intensely stressful time.