Ohhhhhhhhhhh ((((((((((((((((((((((((Sabrina)))))))))))))))))))))) What a truly frightening worry!!!! I know what you've been going through, and I know too, the issues that have been involved about your mother. I'm just not knowing what to say; no-one expected this move to be anything remotely like this. Has she always stayed away from doctors? Do you have any idea what that refusal to see one is all about? This is a wild card........but is it possible that your son could in any way influence her? Sort of like an intervention, with only one person intervening. Or the three of you. I'm just thinking that somehow that could maybe get through the wall she has put up around herself. I know your son is a young man. It may not be a possibility at all.
There's no way a monitor could make a difference, right? I'm grasping at straws.......you're in such a terrible position. Is there anyway she could stay with you just long enough to break the cycle of anxiety? Acckkk! This is a tough one. I hope that someone will offer ideas of substance.
I do know that fear of finding her dead. Many times I haven't been able to bring myself to knock on my son's door. There's such a panic that comes with that. Such a full blown fear, with good reason to feel it.
Sabrina, my heart hurts for you. I know everything you've been through; I know how hard you are trying. I'll keep coming back to you. Please be sure to let me know if there's any resolution. Or even if there are just baby steps taken in the right direction. Thinking of you........hugs.......grey