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Originally Posted by elliemay
I appreciate your thoughts here, but mmmm.... no.
While this child - note child - should be approached with empathy, her actions could prove to be quite damaging to her in both the long and short term. The most caring and responsible thing you can do for her is to try and protect her from herself.
As a parent (willed or otherwise) you have got to be able to simultaneously identify with and wrangle this youngster.
IMO, the best thing with teens is don't threaten - do.
Take the door off her room.
Search every single day for diet pills.
Take away the computer, cell phone etc..
Drive her to school and back and that's it.
No more of this "boyfriend". Period. Get a restraining order if you have to.
*Sit* on her if you have to.
She's full of grief, obviously hates herself, and likely feels way way way out of control (obviously).
You can provide that safety and those limits in a gentle, persistent, loving manner.
But you gotta step up to the plate here and be a parent.
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you might want to look up information about
child pornography
endangering the welfare of a child
child trafficing
emotional abuse of a child or minor under the age of 18
physical abuse of a child or minor under the age of 18
sexual abuse of a child or minor under the age of 18
contributing to the delinquency of a minor.
reason I say this is because that is what the laws in the United States of America considers your list of what you think the poster should do is.
how do I know this...
I am a therapist in NY state which is in the USA.
I work with children, teens and adults.
Many of my clients come from many states, and have been in many foster care systems around the USA.
I also have to testify in court on child abuse cases.