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Originally Posted by farmergirl
AL,
This is the girl who was also found naked with her boyfriend in her room after she had been left alone at home because she said she "didn't feel well." This girl is headed for a world of hurt, probably teenage pregnancy, and is being manipulated by this boyfriend of hers. This girl is in imminent danger. The computer needs to be moved into the living room where she can be supervised if she is using it. The boy needs to be off limits. His parents need to be informed of his actions so they can assist in supervising this situation. The guardian needs to sit down in a family session with the therapist and all the cards need to be put on the table. The boundaries and rules need to be clarified and discussed openly. But the adults in this situation have an obligation to do what must be done to protect this girl from mistreatment by this boyfriend. This is not a time to pussyfoot around the situation. It would be negligent to just say it's okay honey, I respect your right to privacy, and then let her continue to have access to the computer and this boy without supervision at ALL times. She will end up with STD's, pregnant, etc. without direct intervention here.
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Question - how can a teen get a sexually transmitted disease by chatting on a computer with their boyfriend? how is she in danger by being alone in her own bedroom? how is the boyfriend manipulating her?
Read the first post within this thread. the poster states she went into the teens room and found her naked skyping with her boyfriend while naked. skype is online chatting. the boyfriend was not in the girls room with her. he was on a computer elsewhere using skype to chat with her.
you cannot get a STD by sitting in your bedroom naked chatting online with your boyfriend.
there is no boy in her bedroom to place her in danger and the posting by the guardian says nothing about the boy manipulating and harming her.
we are discussing a completely different situation than you are.
this thread here deals with a the situation of a 14yr old teenager who's parent has just died. the guardian wanted to ask the teen a question about dinner. she entered the teens room and found the naked teen on the computer messaging her boyfriend.
humiliating her by walking into her room unannounced while she is naked and yelling at her and threatening to tell others about what the girl has in her bathroom is NOT acceptable parenting here in the USA and is considered to be abuse here. it may not be so where you are but it is here.
sorry I stand by what I said in my previous postings