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Originally Posted by skysblue
A couple of weeks later I said to her that I knew she was mad at me.
She admitted it was true and it was because I was acting like a belligerent teenager, she said. Was it RIGHT for her to say that to me?
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It was the truth about her feelings, it was real - her intent counts.
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Originally Posted by skysblue
Isn't a T supposed to try to understand what my behavior meant and try to help me figure it out?
Instead I felt we ignored it and moved on with other stuff.
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It's not like she refused ever to talk about it again. YOU brought it up when YOU were ready - that's okay.
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Originally Posted by skysblue
... a reason why I still can't trust her 100%. She admitted she made a mistake and said that she's human.
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My T says that's all that matters, that we both try to fix it when it breaks. That in fact is how a r/s
GROWS.
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Originally Posted by skysblue
But how can I relax when I think she might again judge me poorly by how I act?
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I think you are really asking, how can you RELAX when she might get ANGRY at you again.
My first reaction to this is simply, she's not your mother? (i.e., I hear my T saying, "I'm not mummy, I don't act like that, I don't treat you that way.")
My 2nd reaction is that, those first few moments ARE a hot button for T's, and coming where we come from, respecting our T's is a HUGE step. As much as I ADORE my T, respect for him only came recently. So I think this is something that is just going to have to "float" like the emotion stuff you wrote about.
So maybe what you're asking - is she good enough? Yeah, it sounds like it to me. Esp since she was so open and truthful and descriptive about the ipod incident. AND she remembered it - a lot of my T's have said, you shoulda brought it up THEN, I don't REMEMBER!