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Originally Posted by stormyangels
The difference is with T now, she won't hold it against you forever. She is able to acknowledge it, apologize, let it go and move forward. Which is why I hope that you can learn that it is ok to relax and show emotions. Because you need to trust that even if someone gets mad, she/you/both can work through it and go forward without forever labeling.
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I know, I know - T and I have talked about it. She has tried to explain that just because 2 people have a 'bumping against each other' does not mean that the relationship is flawed or that the 2 people don't care about each other anymore. She says that we have to allow people to make mistakes. And I agree with her, of course.
The problem, though, for me is that I am being asked to put my heart out there exposed and raw and expected to handle now the very thing that terrifies me so much. What if she takes a 2x4 to my heart again? How can I risk that? I can intellectualize that I should but my fear is just too strong.