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Originally Posted by tazkatt22
im going thru a divorce with three kids and i am so lost its my idea after 10 years i just cant handle being the only one pulling the financial weight and he is always so mad everyone is mad really noone is ever in a good mood i feel bad though i want to just put a bandaid on it and say okay but i know for my kids i cant is anyone else going thru this???
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I went through a divorce and my kids are doing fine. We made sure to make it amicable--this is especially important for the kids' sake. The best predictor of children's emotional health after a divorce is the level of parental conflict (both during and after the divorce). If you and your husband do this without a lot of fighting and vitriole and demonstrate to your kids that you are still polite and civil and working as a team to co-parent, they will do well.
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Originally Posted by AvidReader
we're going to send my oldest daughter (age 14) to a therapist because she definitely seems unhappy.
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AvidReader, we had my youngest daughter see a therapist before and during the divorce. She is 17 now and still sees the same therapist, and it has been a couple of years since we completed the divorce. It didn't seem like the therapist was that helpful in the early days of her going, but they kept at it, and now the therapist is a really positive influence in my daughter's life. Progress and "improvement" (not sure what to call it) were very, very gradual so it was hard to see at the time.