amanda is right. you need to fill it with things that make you happy. things that represent you. im very ecclectic so my apt is filled with all kinds of things that dont go togehter normally, but they suit me to a T. my chair cushions i covered in black fabric covering in glimmering stars, the couch someone gave me has monkeys on it, total clash but i love it. i have different chimes hanging from my ceiling. pictures of fairies on the walls alongside pictures i have painted or taken and had blown up from my camera. ceramics i have painted. tiny clocks i have collected. crystals, small bottles. so basically i have just filled my home with lots of little things that make me happy, things that bring joy to me, and when i am feeling happy then i feel safe.