Hi Anne.
Thank you for your excellent response. I don't feel you're being rude or confrontational at all, and I hope you won't interpret my somewhat "clipped" style that way either.

I did notice I wasn't directly answering your question, but I felt others had addressed it, I couldn't really relate to it, so I went with what your posting stirred up in me, with what I read between the lines.

I THOUGHT I meant "heat of the moment" in terms of trauma, but you saw in it a more romantic slant; whether that originated from me or you, probably doesn't matter.

So where you say you are desperate for info and need to be accurate -
I am hearing that as you are expending too much energy in extra-therapy activity.

Maybe it IS therapy activity, maybe these ARE the issues you need to work on and he is a good person to work them out with.

I would suggest you re-read your response to me. I think it was very honest, and really really excellent, but a little scary. If I were a therapist, I would have been proud to elicit such a thoughtful and insightful response. As a client, I wish I could see myself that well!