I just have to say it feels weird to me that part of a therapist's job would be to let the client know how they are "perceived by others" because a therapist doesn't KNOW. All they know is what they've seen in session and how they view it is so highly subjective that i think it just leads to problems. Every T is allowed to have things they won't tolerate but the effective way to communicate that might be "please don't do that in therapy." To make it a character thing is a little upsetting to me. Ok this is a personal bent but my T's saying "you are really introverted so sometimes I can't connect to you" really hurt for instance, because it almost feels like it's setting that up as a reason NOT to treat the person respectfully or saying you can only do therapy if you are kind of perfect in this way that is important to me (the T). I dunno!