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Originally Posted by Omers
For better or worse that is part of being in relationship with someone with AS. We don't have theory of mind and cannot understand, especially not on feeling level, another persons emotions. Some cane learn what a common emotional reaction might be but it is often memorization of a lot of situations as we don't tend to generalize either.
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Thanks so much, there's so much I still am learning about AS, its been less then a year new to me and I am struggling to find the tolerance I need at times..although I may have some of the knowledge that Ive read form the net, the sinking in takes experience and patience, of which I am not always equipped with , especially when my emotions and feelings over rule my logic an understanding.
Hearing you describe what Ive read about Theory of Mind seems to make more sense, as you simplified it without all the mumbo jumbo in the net making it more difficult to imagine and understand in real life terms..
I am not without issues, I have anxiety issues, fears of abandonment
which of coarse has been perpetuated by his many times of leaving me and running away for days or weeks when he has a meltdown..
As well as a past of horror from my childhood that still lingers its effects on me at times warping my true sense of what i can do, and what I can survive.. I attempt to understand as best I can, I am the one who has suggested its AS as it was a gift of an answer to me one day when I was at my wits end with his shutdowns and having no explanation for how a man can possibly behave this way, and I was ready to give up....then on another site someone mentioned AS and its been a rush of finding info since to find out as much as I can...however reading about symptoms and experiencing them are different. I hope one day he gets tested, no one in his family or his kids have been, but the traits of AS are evident and obvious to me now and its crazy to me to wonder ow no one diagnosed him or them b4..he was diagnosed with anxirty, depression, bipolar, torrets..and who knows what else..just not AS..but now that I have the info.. there's no going back.its the only thing that makes sense..it was a big wow when I began toi read about AS, ans he is AS..100%...is however still does not make it always easy for me to understand, or get past...Im doing all I can to try and suggest others such as his kids get tested, however the tests are about 2000.00, not affordable and the mother of his children are 100% in denial..yet the signs are clear..thanks again