Queen of codependence here. Talking last week with T about how I felt I "begged" my husbands to be with me, i.e., I felt I gave much more than I got. So who is "nicer" - the person giving the bribe, or the person accepting the bribe? I used to feel superior to them, as they were accepting the bribe, obviously a flaw in their character. Not a fun conversation to have, especially considering what I used as bribes...